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When you are over a certain age, meeting people and especially dating can be difficult. It seems that as you get older, the human being forgets that the best way to get to know someone is by doing things in common. Young people flirt because they carry out activities: they go to classes, gyms, trips … and older people seem to only work. Therefore, if you are a fan of books, you will always have more options to succeed with a mature woman who also likes to read.

For older singles interested in interacting with potential partners, the possibilities offered by joining a dating site are immense. There are many sites available and they are becoming more and more specialized so that people can choose the niche of their interest and surround themselves with users who meet their expectations and age. On, profiles can be filtered by interests and hobbies, so it shouldn’t be difficult to find it. Assuming you arrange a first date fairly quickly, it would be helpful to soak up some information about relationships with older women. Here are some books we can recommend reading before your date that will increase your chances on a successful date with older women.

Mrs Martin’s Incomparable Adventure, Courtney Milan

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The central protagonist of this enthralling romantic tale is Bertrice Martin, a 73-year-old widow who has maintained a useful appearance with a potent combination of unusual home remedies, including spiteful feelings about a younger guy dubbed a ‘terrible nephew.’ Then another woman crashes into her life, Violetta Beauchamps, a sprightly 69-year-old who wants to be rid of the nephew. Various captivating twists and turns threaten to derail this triangle. Which of the protagonists will end up most contended? And will any of the terrible men alluded to have any chance of winning the hands of lovely older ladies?

Second Wind, Ceillie Simkiss

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This is a romantic novel that proves there is never any time limit when it comes to the intensity of feelings that can be stoked between two people. Following the death of her husband, Martha Applebee, a 71-year-old homemaker, decides the time has come to look to the future instead of dwelling on the past. She decided to embark on her first-ever long-distance trip.

Although becoming a widow has impacted so many of the plans that she was hoping to put into place, nothing could have prepared her for the next twist. By chance, she encounters Pamela, a 70-year-old dog trainer, and is instantly reminded of a childhood sweetheart. They have not seen each other for more than 50 years, but buying seats for the same plane journey presents a once-in-lifetime opportunity to rekindle long-lost feelings.

Hold Me Tight, by Dr Sue Johnson

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Johnson specializes in ‘emotionally-based therapy.  Her captivating narrative walks you through seven conversations intended to capture defining moments in any loving relationship such as age-gap relationships allowing you to see how bonds could be strengthened despite age difference. 

Each of these conversations is highlighted with case histories, allowing you to glean even more useful information. Her advice and tutoring are all about underlining how couples can seek to ‘de-escalate’ aspects of their relationship that are leading to friction and how they can mitigate the problem of age difference. By building an irrefutable connection based on easily digestible recommendations, the bond within a partnership will become even tighter.

The Notebook, Nicholas Sparks

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Sparks has published 22 novels, selling over 100 million copies worldwide, and this well-known title was adapted into a film. At the heart of this story are two old acquaintances, who were in love when they were much younger. Through flashbacks, we learn that Noah, who is reading aloud to an elderly resident in a nursing home, Allie, knew her back in the 1930s. We learn that when she and Noah were courting, her mother thought him unsuitable, and intercepted his love.

Decades later, we observe Noak painstakingly trying to remind Allie – now suffering from dementia – of their past. Eventually, they dance together, and deep emotions flare once again. This book illustrates how true love is something that will endure across the years, and older people are just as capable of embracing its passion.

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, by John M Gottman and others

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While flirting with prospective partners at an early stage might seem as if it’s merely the beginning of a journey, it’s always important to view the overall picture. This book provides that overview in a thoroughly absorbing way, presenting a guide to love in eight ‘life-altering conversations. Essential topics are covered beyond the emotional impact of any relationship developing into something deeper, such as money, trust issues, and importantly, physical encounters.

The major point of this intriguing work is that love should never be taken for granted, and no matter how blissfully content you might assume you are, there is always room to strengthen your emotional bond. If navigating your way through true romance can sometimes be a bumpy ride, no matter how strong your partnership might be, this book will be your indispensable guide for the journey. 

The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work, by John M Gottman  and Nan Silver

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This entertaining book by two respected authors breaks down the key factors that will boost the strength of marriage into seven subjects, while also detailing ‘the four horsemen that are the red flags that can derail any couple’s happiness. Perhaps this title might be more appreciated by people further down the line, but there would be no harm in being prepared to face potential issues in the longer term.

It shouldn’t be intimidating to regard anything to do with romance and chemistry as ‘principles,’ by as with anything else in life, there are formalise ways of achieving results, and marriages are no different. The writers introduce their readership to ‘love maps,’ revealing how understanding how to overcome problems or ‘emotional gridlock’ is just a case of being able to analyse issues objectively. Soon you’ll be able to nurture shared aspirations and avoid future conflict.

The Science of Happily Ever After, by Ty Shapiro

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Given that we’re touching on online dating, this final title is excellent because it is topical. The author invites us to consider what is meant by cheating in a relationship, a question that has become increasingly blurred with the advent of digital media. Shapiro discusses the modern phenomenon of what she refers to as ‘micro-cheating,’ arguing it can cause hurt.

What is the science involved when we describe ‘looking for a soulmate’? You might have always harbored the allusion that love is something that will strike you at any time and that there’s nothing anyone can do to prepare for a strike from Cupid’s famous arrow. But this innovative narrative explains that, on the contrary, a contended, loving relationship is something you can both aspire to, and spend time preparing to discover and then develop.